tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post7498200261496460426..comments2024-01-31T02:16:53.518-08:00Comments on The Poor Farm: Permission to Bury Ourselves, Sir. Donna OShaughnessyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08266654110280149719noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-18590309024296007932017-05-15T15:07:01.646-07:002017-05-15T15:07:01.646-07:00Our across the street neighbors waked the wife'...Our across the street neighbors waked the wife's mom in their living room when she passed away. She would walk daily and we'd talk about my kids, etc. She was lovely. I thought the at home wake was very calming. She lived in a mother-in-law suite of rooms on one side of the house. Everything was so calm. It was easier to talk in our neighbor's home, it was really a nice touch.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16007171529456020128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-72152987096287181512017-05-01T14:47:41.170-07:002017-05-01T14:47:41.170-07:00Huh. So I guess any variations on a viking funeral...Huh. So I guess any variations on a viking funeral are out of the question in central Illinois? No way to set a floating raft on fire without "compromising a public waterway," I suspect. Oh well. Back to the old drawing board.KWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07114727221915528878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-46909625763911557582017-04-30T06:57:20.100-07:002017-04-30T06:57:20.100-07:00You're right, I also believe that when the bod...You're right, I also believe that when the body dies, the spirit lives on. I was just hoping to have some kind of monument so if people were visiting the cemetery, they'd say...Oh, look at that, Wilfred Frances lies here...you know, for history! I have great memories :) I'm glad that you have all this sorted out. I don't even have a will, that's something I want to get going on soon(ish)! :)Rain https://www.blogger.com/profile/14377719049819222133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-8747133464171730472017-04-29T20:58:13.880-07:002017-04-29T20:58:13.880-07:00We have certainly sterilized the whole death and d...We have certainly sterilized the whole death and dying process, putting extreme distance between the living and those they loved dearly. I expect my children and grandchildren to throw themselves across my grave weeping hysterically...with laughter, over the jokes that I hope will be told at my expense. Donna OShaughnessyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266654110280149719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-35480175064098053522017-04-29T20:55:42.225-07:002017-04-29T20:55:42.225-07:00Nah, not gory at all. Just realistic. We are, espe...Nah, not gory at all. Just realistic. We are, especially in the US, still a death denying society. We often speak of people as having "expired". Cottage cheese expires, people die.Donna OShaughnessyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266654110280149719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-12033023352754542792017-04-29T20:53:39.706-07:002017-04-29T20:53:39.706-07:00More than just "a layer" bureaucracy mos...More than just "a layer" bureaucracy most resembles a huge pan of sloppy lasagna, minus the good taste.Donna OShaughnessyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266654110280149719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-64159588627194320882017-04-29T20:51:25.772-07:002017-04-29T20:51:25.772-07:00It is sad, and disrespectful and downright greedy....It is sad, and disrespectful and downright greedy. But what does help me is the belief that bodies don't live on, spirits do. Don't allow ridiculous government rules to interfere with your wonderful memories. Even though I am making all these plans now, I still tell my family to do whatever they want at the time of my death; whatever is easiest for them. I won't care, my being dead and all. :)Donna OShaughnessyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266654110280149719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-85772335533954351312017-04-29T20:47:06.378-07:002017-04-29T20:47:06.378-07:00In Illinois there are very few rules about where y...In Illinois there are very few rules about where you can scatter human ashes, the tricky part is where you can bury them.Donna OShaughnessyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266654110280149719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-58141765647753675912017-04-29T20:46:06.483-07:002017-04-29T20:46:06.483-07:00I think he lost the coin toss.I think he lost the coin toss.Donna OShaughnessyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266654110280149719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-10025184271588101352017-04-29T20:45:34.031-07:002017-04-29T20:45:34.031-07:00Best to just have the Mrs. dig a hole for you ther...Best to just have the Mrs. dig a hole for you there after dark. It gets expensive to ask permission.Donna OShaughnessyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266654110280149719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-92201191643283405872017-04-29T20:44:24.488-07:002017-04-29T20:44:24.488-07:00My Irish heritage has lot to do with it as well. W...My Irish heritage has lot to do with it as well. Wake me at home, invite the neighbors over for a final party, make the kids sing songs about my wicked ways.Donna OShaughnessyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266654110280149719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-19637218123051496352017-04-29T20:42:34.767-07:002017-04-29T20:42:34.767-07:00Admission is free to those unfortunate folks relat...Admission is free to those unfortunate folks related to us. Lucky You.Donna OShaughnessyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266654110280149719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-8096267679506585002017-04-29T20:41:38.642-07:002017-04-29T20:41:38.642-07:00"Torch me", like a big Roman Candle. Wha..."Torch me", like a big Roman Candle. What a way to go!Donna OShaughnessyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266654110280149719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-60110370505350593232017-04-29T20:40:40.163-07:002017-04-29T20:40:40.163-07:00No, not progress. It's all about the taxes.No, not progress. It's all about the taxes.Donna OShaughnessyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266654110280149719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-76944503980559649042017-04-29T01:37:35.517-07:002017-04-29T01:37:35.517-07:00And to think when people died in the past, people ...And to think when people died in the past, people just buried them on the farm. Because it was the healthiest thing to do, and most convenient for the family. Thanks for sharing your journey, to the Beyond Board and Lodgings. ;)Chris https://www.blogger.com/profile/13715819899708384147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-15335300403950485442017-04-28T14:03:22.210-07:002017-04-28T14:03:22.210-07:00Oh my god, they really permit and police everythin...Oh my god, they really permit and police everything in your area don't they? I want to extend my congratulations (on your future successful burial?) but any way i try to phrase it it sounds gory.Cottontailfarmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06603586688895863727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-5870066350811511452017-04-28T12:44:17.228-07:002017-04-28T12:44:17.228-07:00Common sense would dictate so, but bureaucracy add...Common sense would dictate so, but bureaucracy adds a layer of stupidity to anything, it seems. Mrs Shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02636736944375337989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-10238644210755705782017-04-28T08:20:45.283-07:002017-04-28T08:20:45.283-07:00I think it's a wonderful idea Donna and I ment...I think it's a wonderful idea Donna and I mentioned in your last post about it, it has piqued my interest in looking into this for us too, but only when we buy our place in a few years. When I was inquiring about my grandfather's grave site in Montreal a few years back...long story short, some mix up happened and his stone was destroyed, nobody wants to take responsibility and my estranged father said it's not worth the money to replace it...anyway...I wanted to try to memorialize my grandfather because I loved him so much. I was told it would cost 15 grand to move him into a new plot with a new stone. And that in 100 years, if they needed more room, they would remove his stone, remove him to another spot, and use the plot for someone else. If I wanted his plot just for him, guaranteed for a further 100 years, it would be $4000. I think that you have the right idea. Who has that kind of money, I mean really??? It makes me sad to think about it.Rain https://www.blogger.com/profile/14377719049819222133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-66891051353241017362017-04-28T04:51:13.798-07:002017-04-28T04:51:13.798-07:00Wow, that's a lot of paperwork.
My plan? No ...Wow, that's a lot of paperwork. <br />My plan? No embalming, cheapest cremation, ashes scattered under my garden swing.<br />Nobody the wiser.<br />Looking forward to more updates on the Family Plot.<br />Take care.Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17822528453563683772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-76808415799408795942017-04-28T00:51:50.739-07:002017-04-28T00:51:50.739-07:00I wonder what has this poor man did to be assigned...I wonder what has this poor man did to be assigned all your odd requests???? At least you only have one person to deal with from now on. Congratulations!!Sharon in Surreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12864797100804511728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-7677783590817549232017-04-27T20:54:59.740-07:002017-04-27T20:54:59.740-07:00You've made me wonder whether I shouldn't ...You've made me wonder whether I shouldn't ask for permission to join our late Labrador down at the vegetable patch.Cro Magnonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06840670227576695352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-91878136552759375072017-04-27T18:08:02.514-07:002017-04-27T18:08:02.514-07:00It's still taken some work on your part! And r...It's still taken some work on your part! And really, you're talking about things other folks probably don't even want to think about. The funeral and burial business will certainly soak you for every penny they can get. Your alternative just seems like the right way to go. Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02435811789823712254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-38284959034239224682017-04-27T16:52:15.727-07:002017-04-27T16:52:15.727-07:00I would like to b the first to put down a deposit ...I would like to b the first to put down a deposit for two burial plots! How much??Margaret Holdenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12050769349322892694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-87053969718000267352017-04-27T16:42:14.506-07:002017-04-27T16:42:14.506-07:00what a great idea!i want no fuss at all for my fun...what a great idea!i want no fuss at all for my funeral. torch me and throw me somewhere. the funeral business is awful.jaz@octoberfarmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17249328159454897124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3273144680832594458.post-89475579632006101922017-04-27T15:45:17.233-07:002017-04-27T15:45:17.233-07:00My gawd--bureaucracy!
It's exhausting just rea...My gawd--bureaucracy!<br />It's exhausting just reading about it-I couldn't imagine having to live through that.<br />Why on earth must anything even remotely connected to government be a huge drain on a bank account (not to mention our sanity?) This is progress????Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10122524042294993949noreply@blogger.com